‘I don’t believe it’ (Luke)
‘That is why you fail’ (Yoda)
Failure gets a rough ride. You’re scared to fail because there are so many negative connotations attached to it.
I used to feel like a failure LOTS, until I realised that there is really no such thing as failure.
If you’ve ever seen a baby learn to walk, at first they’ll fall on their bum more than they can walk. Yet we don’t tell them they’re failures, because we know they’re going to walk in their own time. With each step they’re learning.
And that’s what you’re doing. Every moment of every day you’re growing as a person, evolving and learning.
The things you think of as failures are lessons and probably the most important ones.
When I look back to my time as a teenager I realise the things I thought of as failures – the failed relationships, the failed subjects – they all taught me what I wanted in life, what I didn’t want and that I had the strength within me to go for my dreams.
As a mum, I’ve often felt like I’m failing my kids. But at these times, I’ve learned that I can’t control their happiness or them – we are each individuals, in charge of ourselves.
There’s a cheesy saying ‘there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback’ and that’s what I want you to look at your so-called failures as. Feedback. For you to learn from and to grow from.
So, if you’re putting pressure on yourself not to fail, then please don’t. Yes, I know that exam results are important. But they’re not a measure of your worth as a person. Everyone fails. Yet, everyone is special and talented in their own unique way. That’s what makes life so great.